He's just not that into....

What a great movie. There are, as with most movies this day and age, parts of the movie I don't agree with, but the principles still stand. If he's not acting like he likes you, he doesn't like you, and the same goes for girls, If she doesn't act like she likes you, then she doesn't like you. The important catch in the arguments we feed ourselves to the contrary is that nice does not equal like.

This is the one that seems to plague the Christian circles more than any other. The difference between Christians and everyone else, is that Christians feel like they have to be nice to everyone, so even when we want to yell "get away from me creep-o" we still have to treat you with "brotherly kindness." On the other hand non-Christians can treat you exactly how they feel about you, because they know they probably won't run into you again, Christians see each other at least once a week. So for all these complications, the over whelming one in singles group arises- If they're nice they must like me. And then unnecessary feelings arise leaving you to send someone's heart on the express train to the earth's core as the only way to truly tell them that you're not interested. Which leaves both of you feeling bad, and in an awkward place.

So what's the solution. The biggest clue is that if someone is not trying to start conversations outside of natural church settings aka. Facebook, text, or phone messages- then they aren't interested, they're just nice. And when in doubt, put your big girl/boy underwear on and ask them- and except whatever they say as the honest truth. And the truth is, unless they say yes, then it's a no. Which means, "I'm dating Jesus," "I need to grow spiritually," or any other Christian side steps, are just nice ways to say, "I'm just not that into you...."