One of the most important thing a single person can do is make a list of what they want in a spouse, and then give it to someone they trust. Make it into two columns: Must have, and nice but not a must. Then when you are in a moment of desperate, you can see what you thought about the opposite sex when you were in your right mind (or left depending on what hand you write with), and hopefully not wind up in a relationship that you wind up regretting. The other important part is making sure there is someone that will tell you your wrong when you try to start trying to fight a square peg into a round whole. It's amazing how you can convince yourself that something so wrong for you is so right when you can't see another option. The list reminds you of what you really need, and not only that, but helps you to look at yourself and examine who you are, which can be scary, but it is a necessary part of life.
Examples you say? Here's a look at some of my list:
Must: no smoking, drinking, and approved by family and friends, likes to have fun, and quirky in their own way (and according to my mother- debt free)
Nice but not necessary: A couple years older, well traveled, taller, athletic, musical
That's my short list. What's on your list?
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